What is failing? #nottrying #guts

Have you ever thought about what failing is? So many times in my life I have not been able to achieve the exact goals I have set out to reach.  I know that I am stubborn and hard-working, so I guess other people also experience failure. To me is important to do you best, to fight and not give up to easily. If you really, really try - and then fail, then it is easier to accept your failure.

I have experienced to fail in my job, in my sport and in my private life. Not one single time I found it easy to accept. But I have sure learned from my failures and mistakes. I would even go so far to say that it has made me the person I am today. I continue to fail in some of the things or activities I embark on, but now I am more aware of the possibility of failure without being to influenced by it. I think failure is a part of life itself - and as long as your MINDSET is positive, then you will learn from your failures.

Can you make a difference

I know that you can. The question is merely HOW!

Everyone needs to practice

Do you want to become awesome at your hobby, job or relationship? Well, practice then. In all things it helps to train, work out or in other way practice. This is not just in sports - or workrelated matters that it counts to be prepared and work hard. One of the areas that I really see a difference in my own development is on the personal level. There more I work on developing my own knowledge about my core values, my behavior with other people, group dynamics or leadership - the more I develop myself. I am positive that this is possible for you too. So is there some things that you really want to become good at? In your private life or your professional life? Then describe the area to yourself - and find out where or who that can help you. It can be a personal coach (really made a difference for me), a mentor, a friend or loved one.  In any case you often need a little push, because the first steps are the hardest. Do you have the courage to take the first steps?

Remember: anyone can be cool, but awesome takes practice. 

Energy accounting on a PERSONAL level →

What is that concept all about, you might ask?

Well, to me it is a fine line that distinguish what brings energy into your life - and what drain energy in your life.

Have you noticed how some tasks, some people and some situations simply just drain your energy? Or can you think of examples where you just seem to come out of a meeting or situation and feel revitalized?

I sure can.

I get energy from meeting people that are upbeat, enthusiastic or have a vision. And even more from communicating with people. I get energy from being part of a project, work task or simply just a situation where I can FEEL the energy. Typically I contribute - either by being upbeat or being visibly annoyed. This is very often what happens for me, since I am influenced by the people around me. The ENERGY in a room is being influenced by the people AND their mindset, attitude and body language. Do you agree?

Personally I try to keep tabs. I try to notice WHEN, WHERE and HOW I get energy - and also when I loose it. The more I notice, the more I am able to influence a CHANGE in energy, just by being myself. I think that people that know me well, or have worked with me will testament to the fact that my energy levels are high - and that I mostly contribute with positive energy.

Try to make a line on a paper, okay? Then put ALL the things that give you energy on one side - and ALL the things (or situations or people) that drain your energy on the other side. Does it give you new insight or make it visible what YOU can do to change the energy?

It works for me. Please give me some feedback if it works for you - or you have other methods to register ENERGY.

What humour can do for a team?

Have you noticed how easy the atmosphere in team can be if there is humour involved? I have noticed that when the group of people I engage with has a touch of humour in the discussions - even in difficult times - then things flow easier. I believe that we as human beings are suffocated if every work situation is grave, serious and in a dark type of atmosphere. I believe that a somewhat upbeat atmosphere engages people on a more fundamental level - and people start building relationships on a deeper level. Maybe a somewhat naive way of looking at things, but nonetheless a proven concept in my business world. Again it has something to do with ENERGY. Energy is the source of group dynamics and this is a lesson I have made over 20+ years of leadership roles.

YOU can change the dynamics in a group by contributing actively with humour. Just be aware that humour is very culturally bound, so you need to develop your own tools of how to do it.  

Currently I have a management team with tonnes of humour. Room for the important, but also room to make jokes and have a blast. In my opion so important i. A high-performing team. 

What do you think? Comments are welcome